Improve Your Self-Esteem
By Sharon Chapman | Counsellor | Affinity Counselling, Hills District NSW
Self-esteem is how you see yourself not how others see you. It’s that inner voice that tells you whether you’re good enough, smart enough, lovable, or capable. And when that voice is harsh or critical, it can affect almost every area of your life.
Low self-esteem often shows up in quiet ways. Maybe you constantly doubt yourself. Maybe you avoid opportunities because you don’t feel confident. Or maybe you feel anxious and low without knowing why. It’s incredibly common and it’s also something you can change.
As a counsellor who specialises in self-esteem and relationship work, I’ve seen just how life-changing it can be when people start to shift how they see themselves.
Let’s explore a few practical ways to begin boosting your self-esteem.
Signs You Might Be Struggling With Self-Esteem
Ask yourself:
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Do I like the person I am?
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Do I feel good enough?
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Do I often compare myself to others?
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Do I assume people think badly of me?
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Do I doubt whether I’ve done enough in life?
If you often answer “no” to these types of questions, chances are your self-esteem could use some support.
Many people with low self-esteem also experience anxiety or depression. These three often go hand in hand creating a cycle that’s hard to break without some help or new tools. But it can be broken.
7 Small Shifts That Can Improve Self-Esteem
1. Feed Your Body to Support Your Mood
Food isn’t just fuel it affects how you feel emotionally. Try to eat a balanced diet that includes mood-boosting nutrients like magnesium, zinc, and omega-3s. Get your vitamin D checked by your GP too it plays a big role in energy and mood.
2. Move Your Body Daily (Even a Little)
You don’t need a gym membership. Just a daily walk can do wonders for your mental health. Walking with a friend or listening to music or a podcast can make it more enjoyable. A “walk and talk” buddy is even better, fresh air + connection = a lift in mood.
3. Do Something Kind Just for You
When you’re feeling low, it’s easy to stop caring for yourself. But little acts of kindness towards yourself can shift your mindset. Book a massage. Try a new haircut. Sit quietly with a coffee. You matter, and your needs are important too.
4. Try Something New (or Revisit What You Loved)
Learning or doing something fun builds confidence. Whether it’s a hobby you used to enjoy or something you’ve always wanted to try, give it a go. Dance, pottery, soccer, writing, hiking anything that brings you joy and gets you out of your head.
5. Pay Attention to Your Self-Talk
The way we talk to ourselves matters more than we realise. If you wouldn’t say it to a friend, don’t say it to yourself. Practice replacing harsh thoughts with gentler, more accurate ones. This takes time, but it makes a huge difference.
6. Spend Time with People Who Lift You Up
We naturally absorb the energy of the people around us. If someone consistently makes you feel small, it’s okay to create some distance. Choose friends who support you, encourage you, and help you see the good in yourself.
7. Don’t Isolate Yourself
When self-esteem is low, many people avoid social situations. But connecting with others (even in small doses) can actually help you feel better. Start small, a coffee with a friend or a quick chat with someone you trust can go a long way.
You Don’t Have to Do This Alone
These tips are a great starting point, but sometimes we all need support to find the right strategies especially if low self-esteem has been around for a long time.
Counselling can help you identify what’s holding you back and give you practical tools to build confidence and start enjoying life again.
Book online to start working on your self-esteem in a supportive, judgement-free space.
As always, here if you need.
Sharon Chapman
Counsellor for self-esteem – Hills District Sydney