A large part of my work is with individuals trying to navigate life and help them unravel patterns or habits that are in the way of them being happy. Both men and women seek help to find solutions to problems that are causing stress or worry.
I am seeing more and more Mums today who have lost their identity or doubt their parenting and their relationships and don’t feel they can ask for help. They tend to come in to talk about something else and when we start talking, it becomes apparent that these Mums have put themselves last and are lost. This section directly addresses the work we do in this area to help keep Mums healthy so they can continue to look after their families effectively.
I’m a Mum, I get the struggle to be the perfect Mum and not knowing the ‘right’ thing to do a lot of the time. I feel like have achieved a really good balance for myself and my family. My kids and myself are thriving from this balance. It took me a while though to work it out.
If any of these are you, then I can try and help you to find you again and still be a good parent:
Do you feel you don’t know who you are anymore?
Do you feel that you are boring now?
Do you not enjoy parenting?
Do you find parenting overwhelming?
Do you feel guilt around having your own time?
Do you find yourself fighting with your partner or withdrawing?
Do you feel that you are of no value?
Do you feel you aren’t heard?
Are you dissatisfied with your life?
Have you isolated yourself from most friends unless it revolves around kids?
Do you feel like you are taken for granted?
Do you feel like parenting is beating your head against a wall?
Do you wonder how to discipline your kids now because you are just tired?
Do you feel overwhelmed a lot of the time and tired?
Are your kids getting out of control because you don’t have the energy to parent how you would like?
If you said yes to a few or these then you need some help to find you again and the balance in your world to allow that. You need to learn the value perhaps of being a little bit selfish!!
Working with Mums around themselves and parenting is one of my favourite and most fulfilling areas I have worked with as a counsellor. Watching women find themselves again, take control of their lives and the flow on effect of this to their kids and partner is wonderful.
Mums matter. You are still people. You just need to toss the guilt, find the balance and become you again!